There's a little black spot on the sun today.......(Police, King of Pain).
I'll be singing that song on Tuesday when we experience a Venus Transit....although if my eclipse viewing glasses don't arrive in time, I'll just be watching it on TV.
We had some pretty turbulent weather Friday - torrential downpours, flickering power, some tornado warnings....but all's well that ends well. I didn't bowl particularly well, but did what I needed to in the clutch and we won all our games. I got drenched visiting Dad, but I made the trip.....and then when I got home from bowling he'd left a phone message asking for something or another.
Which reinforced the idea that maybe my brother is right - I"m doing too much and it's just not good for me. I visit five times a week and Dad has managed to call me with an additional demand on my "off days". My brother tells me that he actually talked to him on Thursday and they agreed that he needed to respect that I had my own life to live and he should't put so much on me -but clearly that went in one ear and out the other.
Mind you, I still don't agree with my brother's attitude towards our father and I know darn well he doesn't agree with mine......but we respect each other and have the same goal - which is to do what needs to be done to respect Dad's wishes while still keeping him safe. I am grateful to have someone to share the burden with whether or not I like his methods of doing so :)
Today was Dad's 82nd birthday.....I brought him lunch including some cheesecake (probably his favorite food in the world), and sat and listened to him for a while. The care center is looking after him well - they even acknowledged his special day, and I'm pleased for that assurance that the people care about more than just their paychecks.
My brother is right about one thing - I do need to step back. Dad's sucking up way too much of my time and energy and it's only getting worse, not better. So, I'll cut back on my visits - take Saturday for myself as a start.....give him back whatever he's willing to handle, and set boundaries on his interference on the things I need to handle.
Up until the "dad thing" I was in a great place in my life - in fact, I'm still in that great place but there's just interference from all this other stuff that I must remember is a choice - not a requirement.
Weather was great today and should be the same tomorrow - time to let go and enjoy......
